»highlight Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 .. was a prostitute / hooker / escort from somebody other than them (so he/she was keeping a secret) what would you do? Would you be angry? Would you accept it as if it was just a job? Would you cut them off immediately without explanation? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maskedmaniac Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 Did this happen to you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LastMinuteLapras Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 Yes, yes I would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Generations Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 First off, it wouldn't happen to me...because I go single for loooooong periods of time for the exact reason that I don't trust people. But, if it did, that would obviously be it. I don't think I would get angry...I'd just be like "Oh...you're a bad person." And I'd walk off. Not a bad person for choosing to be a prostitute. That's a personal decision. But, a bad person for trying to trick someone into having a normal relationship, all while *censored*ing random people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyriqz ✪ Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 I wouldn't be able to deal with it. I fully accept and understand sex and physicality is, to some people, just that, and has no bearing on genuine love, respect etc. I also fully understand and respect polygamy and that you don't have to be monogamous to be sincere in your love, and that you can be happy with that lifestyle just fine. But, to me, personally, it's a one on one thing, where you belong to the person, sorta. I mean cheating is an absolute no anyways, but even if it was "just a job", it's just not something I could deal with. That being said, this is my belief and thinking as a single and I've never had such a thing happen to me when I was in a relationship. I can talk sense and articulate my beliefs all day, but if I end up being in love with someone and then learning she's an escort or whatever, I'm sure that'd be a lot more complicated than how I view it right now. Though, of course, if she was doing it secretly, then it'd just be cheating IMO. Even if it's just a job, you can't sleep with others without disclosing it with your SO and expect that to be fine. So, I guess my rambling was sorta unnecessary, and my short answer is: Yes, I'd break it off if I were to find out my girlfriend was secretely a hooker/escort/whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sam the d00d Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 you're asking me this question as if I haven't been posting from my cuckshed for the last 6 years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muur Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 It's cheating innit. See ya. Probably. Depends how much I like them, maybe I'd get over it and try to help them get a real job. Probably not, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Generations Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 Depends how much I like them, maybe I'd get over it and try to help them get a real job. Muur gonna help someone get a job. Lol... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muur Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 Depends how much I like them, maybe I'd get over it and try to help them get a real job. Muur gonna help someone get a job. Lol... I've had plenty of jobs and I'm very qualified for the positions I go for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CROSS-Out Posted September 16, 2016 Report Share Posted September 16, 2016 I'd be furious, absolutely furious. Not that they were in to prostitution, I am not against that profession, but i'd be furious that they kept me in the dark, and i'd be against them specifically doing it as I just wouldn't be comfortable with my SO specifically doing so.That said, how they react to my anger would result in either immediately being left, or being given the ultimatum of either I leave or she stops. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PARKER™ Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Even though she would be making money, no matter how you cut it to me it is still cheating. If she is having sex with someone other than me whether money is involved or not it is still cheating. So yeah I'd be super pissed and she would be on her way out the door. I've been cheated on before and I do not tolerate it. One time and she is gone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunchbox Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Had this conversation at work a few days ago but the profession was webcam model. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronson Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Had this conversation at work a few days ago but the profession was webcam model. I feel like that would be much easier to accept, since, you know, there's no *censored*ing involved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunchbox Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 That was the general discussion, I was ok with it and everyone thought i was insane. I was like there's no actual sex or human contact. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ernez Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 That was the general discussion, I was ok with it and everyone thought i was insane. I was like there's no actual sex or human contact. I think I'd be okay with it as well as long as there was no physical involvement. I don't know how I would feel about the cam models that do those event things. I wouldn't want them anywhere near guys who see them naked on a daily basis sort of thing. I'm a pretty open person tho. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Generations Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Oh yeah...webcam is fine. At that point, it's just other people seeing what only you can have. Where's the bad in that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CROSS-Out Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 For webcamming, i'd probably be fine with it so long as I knew about it before hand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WNX Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Considering how many times she's been cheated on and betrayed, and assuming it hasn't been hardwired into her brain that cheating is gonna happen and it's either him or me, yeah I'd be pissed. I stopped seeing a girl that I expected nothing long term from (but prolly some pretty good sex doe ) for you, to be something/someone better for you, to be somebody who isn't gonna do to you what everybody else seems to be doing, to possibly one day be your one and only until death, and this is what you're doing? Like I said, I'd have to get a baring on her mental state. There's a chance it's something that can be forgiven, only if it stops at that point in time. If she's just whoring out just to whore out, there's no real fear in her mind about me finding out, and her past relationships haven't implanted that mentality I mentioned earlier of "me or you", then it's done with, no discussion. I don't need to "help" you because there's nothing to help. There's no relationship to save. We were over the moment you started doing that sheeit. And the broke mofo in me would be suuuuuuuuuuuuper heated because "YOU NOT BRINGIN THE DUCKETS BACK HOME TO DADDY? WTF GUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURL?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sam the d00d Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Had this conversation at work a few days ago but the profession was webcam model. I did that shit for 2 years, a year of that time spent in a relationship, so if that were the case I wouldn't be in any position to judge I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WNX Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 You were a webcam model? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M3J Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 The fact that she did not tell me says it all. Break-up time. Plus, I'm too insecure and would wonder if I'm good in the sack or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anno Domini. Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 That was the general discussion, I was ok with it and everyone thought i was insane. I was like there's no actual sex or human contact. I'd be pretty pissed if the girl I was with did webcam modelling and wasn't just upfront and honest about it, but it's definitely something I could probably accept either way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
»highlight Posted September 17, 2016 Author Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Basically, I was dating a girl for a few months after being a friend for about a year. Her ex was "abusive" and I helped her through her time dealing with that breakup and the depression she was going through. Fast forward a few months, she invited me and my family to her sister's wedding. My mom is nosy and googled my gf's number (her number was on the invitation) a week before the event and the results were a bunch of escort ads of hers. Obviously, my mind was blown but I wasn't prepared to tell her because you know, it was going to change everything. I went to the wedding (family didn't because they no longer supported the relationship) and went another week with that shit bottled up inside until I searched her number again to find she was still doing it. I gave her a chance to come clean when I asked her if she was hiding anything and she said no. Then I told her I knew, and she was like "yeah, I used to be an escort" and I was like "used to be as in a few hours ago?" and thennnnn I just took everything she would say as a lie. What got to her the most was when I asked her how long she had been doing it and she said since her last relationship. That embarrassed me enough to blurt out "so you lost your virginity to the wrong guy and now you'll give yourself up to anybody?" I knew it was a cold thing to say but I was emotional, and I apologized for that line. She had never seen me that way before so it terrified her. From there it seemed like the only person who was in the wrong was me, because of her emotional issues everything came back to how I handled the situation by "hiding the truth I knew." I was pretty much in defense for a month after. I wanted to work things out but she broke up with me after a month of awkward hostility from her because I made her feel like less of a person after our only argument and couldn't face my parents again. *Censored* me, right? So this entire summer I've spent a long time consumed in my thoughts on what is cheating and what isn't, what is love and what isn't, and what can be forgiven and what can't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey D. Jiggy Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 Nah, I don't tell her I'm visiting hookers, so I don't want to be a hypocrite imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sam the d00d Posted September 17, 2016 Report Share Posted September 17, 2016 You were a webcam model? Yeah I had an actual job too, but I wanted extra easy cash. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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