Tainted Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Im not a pushover by any means, but im a nice guy and a team player so i feel im being taken advantage of. Example: each month(mgrs) are to have a 3 day weekend. My first month I sacrificed my 3rd day so I could have off for Wrestlemania(because they had noone else, i did them a favor and only took 2 of my 3 off). The next month the head manager says she gave me my weekend off and when I looked it was only 2 days...i let it go because i know were short on people and im a team player. Now May rolls around and she says " Shawn i gave you off the day you requested (may 6) and sunday(7th), thats your weekend off". I said okay assuming she was saying Sat and Sun would be part of my 3 day weekend...it wasnt and again i was scheduled only 2 days off..when i asked her about it she says "I did say SAT and SUN..." im thinkin thats slimy as hell and im pretty pissed cuz i feel like she clearly did that shit on purpose. How do i bring this up to her and NOT lose my cool? Hope that wasnt TOO confusing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JGPLX. Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Say 'I'm entitled to three days off and I want my three days off'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astro Zombie Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Head manager probably figures that she can do that to you because you let it go last month. Jagged's suggestion is probably the best way to go about it. Maybe ask why you only have two of your three days off before that so you come off as less confrontational. But if that doesn't work I'm sure there's someone above your head manager that you can contact and attempt to fix the situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tainted Posted May 11, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Thanks for the suggestions. I definately dont want to come off as confrontational in a negative way but I also want to stand my ground. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mango kid Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Assault rifle usually does the trick Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeM Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Thanks for the suggestions. I definately dont want to come off as confrontational in a negative way but I also want to stand my ground. Just say to her that you're confused as to why you don't seem to be getting three days as you were lead to believe. I often find that by phrasing it that way, it comes off less confrontational - which if the boss is being a dick, gives them less opportunity to go in guns blazing. Because if the boss is a dick, and you call them out on it - that will get their back up, and their defence mechanism will be to simply try and shout you down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maskedmaniac Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 This sounds like a sequel to Office Space lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tainted Posted May 11, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Thanks for the suggestions. I definately dont want to come off as confrontational in a negative way but I also want to stand my ground. Just say to her that you're confused as to why you don't seem to be getting three days as you were lead to believe. I often find that by phrasing it that way, it comes off less confrontational - which if the boss is being a dick, gives them less opportunity to go in guns blazing. Because if the boss is a dick, and you call them out on it - that will get their back up, and their defence mechanism will be to simply try and shout you down. Thank you, that really helps. Thats my problem, I have trouble with phrasing as Im very direct with my words and that almost always gets misunderstood. She is the type that gets defensive when she thinks shes being verbally attacked or accused of doing something wrong and I think your phrasing is like you said a better way to communicate so she doesnt come at me like I was accusing her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creepia Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 If you're legally entitled to those 3 days than they can't do anything about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mango kid Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 I don't think he's legally entitled to them it could have been company policy but they could also changed it and no one just told him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JGPLX. Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Thanks for the suggestions. I definately dont want to come off as confrontational in a negative way but I also want to stand my ground. If you think that asking what you're rightfully obliged to get is confrontational, and that will probably come across to your manager. You say it's 'being a team player', but it could just be your manager doing it cos they know they can. Stand your ground, cos doing that doesn't necessarily mean you're being negative and/or confrontational. But there are smart ways to do it, and the post a few above mine (that you already replied to) would be one good way to go about it. Assault rifle usually does the trick This turn of yours is very strange Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tainted Posted May 11, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 I dont know about legally, its definately company policy though, and it hasnt changed considering she gave a newer manager her 3 day weekend the week before my 2 days. Which makes me even more angry. Check out how she did my schedule... Monday-off Tues-friday-work Saturday&Sunday- off Mon/tues-work Wed-off Thurs-sun- work This bitch looped my regular days off into my "weekend" off. So technically during the week i only have 1 day off two weeks in a row because "sat and sun was my weekend" Is that not some shady shit? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mango kid Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 What exactly do you do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeM Posted May 11, 2017 Report Share Posted May 11, 2017 Thanks for the suggestions. I definately dont want to come off as confrontational in a negative way but I also want to stand my ground. Just say to her that you're confused as to why you don't seem to be getting three days as you were lead to believe. I often find that by phrasing it that way, it comes off less confrontational - which if the boss is being a dick, gives them less opportunity to go in guns blazing. Because if the boss is a dick, and you call them out on it - that will get their back up, and their defence mechanism will be to simply try and shout you down. Thank you, that really helps. Thats my problem, I have trouble with phrasing as Im very direct with my words and that almost always gets misunderstood. She is the type that gets defensive when she thinks shes being verbally attacked or accused of doing something wrong and I think your phrasing is like you said a better way to communicate so she doesnt come at me like I was accusing her. No problem, I've been there. A lot of the trouble in situations like these are from misunderstandings. I'm sure if you ask to have a quiet word, maybe in the breakout area over a coffee, you can resolve the issue, or at least understand each other's point of view. If you can do it in a relaxed way, it's probably easier to think about how you want to say something - otherwise it can put you under pressure, and we tend to just say what comes into our heads in that situation. You can even say "look I'm sorry if this comes across the wrong way, I don't mean to be aggressive, but could you please clarify this three day weekend thing? It just seems that I haven't had that many full three days. Then you can add something like you're happy to help out and fill in - but at the same time, you feel you're always doing it. That's how I'd approach it, I can't obviously guarantee it will work - but it's best in my opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M3J Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 Give them a Stone Cold stunner. And be frank and tell them outright. Don't be a "team player" or any of that bullshit, but don't be selfish or an asshat either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ernez Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 Assault rifle usually does the trick No. Not cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LEGION Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 You know what happens when you get unfair treatment at work? YOU JUST MAKE A LIST! Seriously though. Make a list with your days off and on and get your boss to sign it, for verification. Can't screw you over, if they know you have prove. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tainted Posted May 12, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 Thanks for the suggestions. I definately dont want to come off as confrontational in a negative way but I also want to stand my ground. Just say to her that you're confused as to why you don't seem to be getting three days as you were lead to believe. I often find that by phrasing it that way, it comes off less confrontational - which if the boss is being a dick, gives them less opportunity to go in guns blazing. Because if the boss is a dick, and you call them out on it - that will get their back up, and their defence mechanism will be to simply try and shout you down. Thank you, that really helps. Thats my problem, I have trouble with phrasing as Im very direct with my words and that almost always gets misunderstood. She is the type that gets defensive when she thinks shes being verbally attacked or accused of doing something wrong and I think your phrasing is like you said a better way to communicate so she doesnt come at me like I was accusing her. No problem, I've been there. A lot of the trouble in situations like these are from misunderstandings. I'm sure if you ask to have a quiet word, maybe in the breakout area over a coffee, you can resolve the issue, or at least understand each other's point of view. If you can do it in a relaxed way, it's probably easier to think about how you want to say something - otherwise it can put you under pressure, and we tend to just say what comes into our heads in that situation. You can even say "look I'm sorry if this comes across the wrong way, I don't mean to be aggressive, but could you please clarify this three day weekend thing? It just seems that I haven't had that many full three days. Then you can add something like you're happy to help out and fill in - but at the same time, you feel you're always doing it. That's how I'd approach it, I can't obviously guarantee it will work - but it's best in my opinion. Thanks a lot dude, that helps so much. Youre so right about saying things we dont mean when under pressure. I think sitting down and talking with her is a great way to go about it, im going to try your suggestions. Seriously, thanks for taking the time to give me some advice(same for everyone). Austinfan-im a department manager at Mcdonalds by night and a stay at home Dad by day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeM Posted May 12, 2017 Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 No problem, although I was resisting the temptation to post this; NSFW (language) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tainted Posted May 12, 2017 Author Report Share Posted May 12, 2017 No problem, although I was resisting the temptation to post this; NSFW (language) Hahaha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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